Fate that brings people together

(yuenfen), or the fate that bring people together, is something that two people have, it's not something one can have all by himself. I talk about this in terms of Taoist believe, though this concept is quite prevalent in Asian cultures.

Yuenfen describes the relationship between any people or groups. It is sort of a combination of compatibility, spacial and temporal intersection.

So mom was obviously asking about romantic relationship when divinating for me. But divination doesn't always tell you what you want to hear, so she simply ask if I have any yuenfen with someone. The real question she wanted to ask is what happens if I get married.

That soothsayer cuts right to the chase, "You have no yuenfen!".
That was sort of a bad thing to hear, so mom asked "You mean it hasn't came yet?"
The old man shook his head and said, "Nope, not ever again, it has come and gone. He had his chance 3 years ago." Wow, apparently I'm doomed to a life without yuenfen, he may probably be right.
"He's too picky, and the people who are compatible don't like him." That's a contradiction.
"Just stay friends for a while and hope for good luck." Well, that is that.

My mom turned red faced and panic-laughed, concerned that she may not get any grandsons from this offspring. "He really doesn't sugar coat anything."